Putting other people’s needs before my own hindered my personal growth and my own human experience. I neglected my needs and as a result, I did not have a strong enough sense of self and personal security.
I often wonder what my young adult life would have be like, if I had worked as hard at convincing myself of my true worth, value, ideas, and self-belief.
I imagine I would have saved myself from lot of heartache and pain, because I would have attracted the right kind of people into my life, not because I had convinced them to like me, but because I have convinced myself of my true worth and value, allowing the true me to exit.
I learnt with time that being untrue to self serves no one. I learnt truth and authenticity enhances all relationships especially the relationship with one’s self. I learnt the kind of self-validation that I sought from others to make me feel good about myself can only come from me.
Finally, I learnt that I do not need to be everyone’s friend, and everyone does not have to like me for me to be all right. I am all right simply because I am.
And you are all right simply because you are.
Thank you for reading.